The 7 Types of Narcissists to Know About

Experts believe that we are seeing such a dramatic increase in narcissists due to a few factors. Many parents misunderstood the self-esteem movement and thought that telling their kids how great they are would help them to feel good about themselves. But this unmerited praise has created a generation of narcissists who expect to have their egos stroked all the time — regardless of their performance or behavior.

Social media encourages us to take many selfies and promote our "brand." It reinforces a belief that everybody is interested in what we are doing at all times. The focus on materialism — the emphasis on the acquisition of things rather than relationships — contributes as well.

Now granted, narcissism occurs over a continuum. We all need to be a little bit narcissistic. Otherwise, we would not put ourselves together. However, when someone's narcissism has crossed the line from healthy to pathological, dating can be a nightmare.

The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM–5), the handbook therapists use to diagnose personality disorders, identifies the nine traits that make up a Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). While the DSM does not break down NPD into subtypes (and, therefore, these are not official diagnoses), others have identified various types of narcissists. It can be helpful to avow them so you can steer clear the next time you encounter these traits in your next potential partner.

1. Overt Narcissism

Also known as grandiose narcissism or agentic narcissism, this is what we typically think of when we talk about a narcissist. These people are usually extroverted, aggressive, and attention-seeking. They can be very charming and typically expect special treatment. They can be predatory in their ability to see vulnerability in others and use it against them. They are highly competitive and are willing to humiliate others in order to gain a perceived win.

2. Covert Narcissism

Sometimes referred to as narcissistic vulnerability or closet narcissism, a covert narcissist tends to be passive-aggressive but comes across as very helpless. They tend to present themselves as victims and are quick to cry or stage a crisis to gain attention. They also tend to struggle with anxiety and or depression.

3. Hypervigilant Narcissism

These types of narcissists tend to be highly sensitive to the body language, facial reactions, tone, and reactions of others. They tend to take things personally and be hypersensitive to criticism. They are prone to feeling shame or humiliation and can be self-effacing. They are likely to direct action toward others and prefer not to be the center of attention.

4. Oblivious Narcissism

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5. Exhibitionist Narcissism

The need for constant attention is like a bottomless pit for these types of narcissists. They think they are better than others physically and intellectually. They look down on others, even their friends and family. They are very status-conscious and materialistic. They have an enormous need to be admired all the time.

6. Sexual Narcissism

The sexual narcissist feels entitled to have their sexual needs met. They have a self-centered view of sex and tend to not be skilled at emotional intimacy — meaning they're not interested in their partner's needs or frequently overestimate their skills in the bedroom. Yet, they need and expect a lot of praise for their performance in bed. These types of narcissists react poorly to sexual rejection. They expect sex in return for gifts or nice gestures and will manipulate you into having sex with them. They feel entitled to get sex elsewhere if you do not meet their sexual requirements.

7. Malignant Narcissism

This dangerous type of personality disorder is really a cross between narcissistic personality disorder and what we shrink call antisocial personality disorder. This means that they cannot feel empathy. They are what pop psychology calls a "psychopath" or "sociopath." Should You Be Friends With Your Ex? Ask Yourself This Question First.

Many experts believe that Adolf Hitler was a malignant narcissist. Considered to be the most dangerous type of narcissist, if you think you might be dating one, run for the hills. This type of person will hurt you physically, emotionally, financially, and sexually and not bat an eyelash or have any remorse.